My Deeper Story: From Surviving to Rising

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Founder of Long Infinite Rise | Mindset, Patterns, Habit & Performance Coach

I am not a personal trainer. I am a mindset, patterns, and performance coach.

My work lives at the intersection of behavior, identity, emotion, and action. What I help people change is not their workouts or their diets—it is the patterns that quietly run their lives.

I Wasn’t Broken. I Was Surviving.

For most of my adult life, I was trying to fix myself. I chased motivation, discipline, and confidence without understanding why nothing ever stuck. I lived inside cycles of effort and burnout, progress and collapse. I weighed over 350 pounds. I felt disconnected from my body, my direction, and my sense of worth.

What I did not understand then was that I was not broken.
I was surviving.

I grew up adapting instead of feeling safe. I learned early how to read rooms, anticipate needs, and make myself useful. Like many people, I carried the long impact of instability—emotional and sexual abuse, poverty, high-conflict family dynamics and the quiet collapse of safety that teaches a nervous system to stay alert at all times.

Those conditions shaped patterns: people-pleasing, martyr ethics, codependency, disordered eating, body dysmorphia, addiction, depression, and a constant fear of being too much—too loud, too visible, too successful, too big in any sense of the word. I learned how to earn love instead of receive it. I learned how to disappear inside productivity and service.

I share this not to relive it, but to name something important:
I know survival patterns from the inside.

Everything changed when I stopped asking, “What’s wrong with me?” and started asking, “What patterns am I living inside?”

Patterns explain why smart, capable people stay stuck. Patterns explain why willpower fails. Patterns explain why we know what to do and still don’t do it. When patterns shift, behavior follows. When behavior follows, identity catches up.

That is the work I do now.

Gratitude, Purpose & Finding My Voice

I am deeply grateful for everything I have lived through—not because it was easy or fair, but because it formed and informed who I am today. I believe I am here on purpose and for a purpose. Part of that purpose is to return to the places I once survived and help others recognize, name, and move beyond the walls that shaped them.

I am a healer and a nurturer by nature. For much of my life, that instinct existed without boundaries. I gave without limits. I stayed silent instead of saying no. I endured instead of choosing myself. I did not leave relationships—even harmful ones—because I did not yet believe my needs mattered.

The truth is simple and honest:
I did not end my marriage because I wanted to.
I ended it because I had to in order to stay alive.

Continuing to disappear had become more dangerous than choosing myself for the first time.

That moment was not a failure.
It was a crossing.

Learning to say no saved my life. Learning to trust my voice gave it meaning. Now I use that voice with intention, and I help others learn how to find and trust theirs.

How Change Actually Happens

While mindset is the foundation of my work, I believe deeply in movement—not as punishment, optimization, or aesthetics. Movement matters because the body and mind are not separate systems. Neuroscience is clear: motion drives emotion. Physical movement activates neural pathways, hormone release, and chemical signals that make mental and emotional change possible.

Mental work without any physical engagement rarely sticks.

The physical practices I support are evidence-building tools. Physical goals are tangible. You can see the path. You can track progress. You can prove to yourself that change is possible. That proof becomes transferable. Once your nervous system learns, “I can do hard things,” abstract goals—confidence, purpose, self-trust—stop feeling imaginary.

The body becomes the training ground for the mind.

Strategy, Performance & Direction

My professional background spans over 15 years in data analytics, communications, and performance-focused roles. I know how to diagnose systems, measure progress, and move the needle. I help clients clearly identify where they are now, define what “next level” actually means for them, and build a personalized, realistic plan to get there.

This is not generic motivation.
This is strategic, individualized change.

Training, Certifications & Ongoing Professional Development

This work is grounded in lived experience, applied systems, and evidence-based practice. Formal certifications are actively being pursued and will continue to be added as part of my commitment to ethical, effective, and responsible coaching.

    • International Coaching Federation (ICF) — ACC → PCC track

    • Certified Professional Coach (CPC) — mindset, identity, client-led transformation

    • Certified Mindset Coach (CMC) — belief systems and cognitive reframing

    • Positive Psychology Practitioner Certification — strengths-based, evidence-driven coaching

    • Neuroscience-Based Coaching Certification — brain-based behavior change and motivation

    • Tiny Habits® Certification (BJ Fogg Method) — habit stacking and behavior design

    • Behavior Change Specialist Certification — sustainable implementation

    • Solution-Focused Coaching Certification — forward-focused, non-pathologizing coaching

    • Implementation Intentions / Behavior Design Training — If–Then planning and momentum systems

    • High Performance Coach Certification — consistency, clarity, and energy management

    • Resilience Coaching Certification — mental toughness without burnout

    • Strengths-Based Leadership (CliftonStrengths) — leveraging strengths, not fixing deficits

    • Motivational Interviewing (MI) Training — ethical, autonomy-centered behavior change

    • Somatic Coaching Certification (Trauma-Informed) — nervous system regulation and embodiment

    • Trauma-Aware Coaching Training — supporting complex histories without re-traumatization

    • 15+ years in Data Analytics & Performance Management

    • Professional background in communications & customer experience

    • Self-taught Pharmacy Technician — passed certification exam on first attempt

    • Extensive lived experience in behavior change, recovery, identity rebuilding, and resilience

Certifications matter because standards matter. Ethics matter. Safety matters.

Experience matters because transformation happens in real life, not theory.

This work is a lifelong practice. Training evolves. Depth expands. Integrity remains constant.

What I’m Modeling Now

Motherhood shaped this work in ways no certification ever could. I am a single mom raising two boys. I refuse to teach them that love requires self-abandonment. I model discipline paired with grace, structure paired with flexibility, ambition paired with compassion.

Some seasons call for consistency. Some call for presence.
Wisdom is knowing how to hold both.

That philosophy extends directly into my coaching.

I do not create martyrs. I help people build lives where they can show up fully without losing themselves. Discipline, to me, is not rigidity. It is fluidity with intention.

Formal certifications are actively in progress because credibility matters. What I bring you right now is lived experience, applied systems, emotional intelligence, and the ability to sit with truth without flinching.

If you have lived in dark places, I will not be shocked by you.
If you are ready to move forward, I will not rush you.
If you are tired of surviving, I will help you learn how to live.

Your past never disqualifies you.
It becomes your map.